What I Learned About the LGBTQ Community

If there was somewhere I want to be right now, it would be back at the camp I wrote about in my last post, at the dock by the lake. Only in that quiet, that peace, would I be able to deeply cry and mourn with the lost and hurt of the Orlando shooting.

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“We need to just accept gay people.” That’s something I heard as far back as I can remember. But what actually is acceptance?

I always thought I was “so accepting” of people who are LGBTQ. Throughout my life I’ve known many people who are gay. I’ve had friends who are gay. One of my best friends in early high school was a lesbian. The one thing I always made sure I did was treat them exactly as I would treat someone who is not gay. I worked very hard trying to show them I don’t see them any differently from someone who is not gay. I never ever brought the topic up with them.

In reality, all I did was not care about the deepest part of their humanity.

I always said I support gay rights because I believe people are free to do whatever they want and it’s none of my business. When I became a Christian coincidentally around the same time gay marriage was made legal in the USA, I was disgusted by the “religious Christians” who protested and posted hateful stuff on the internet. Nobody in my fellowship or church was against it and that was good enough for me. It wasn’t my business who gets married to whom.

In reality, my none-of-my-business attitude was anything but support.

Looking back now a year later, I can say the Bible points out a lot of things that are sinful. Homosexuality is just one of them. People are quick to pick that one out if it’s not a sin they have committed. That’s one less off the list! Do we get stickers?

If we only focus on what people have or have not done, we very quickly forget what people are meant for in life. Love. It’s a simple word, but it’s not a simple thing. We can love, then we can get angry and forget to love. We can love, then we can get anxious and forget to love. We can love our families, our friends, then we can forget to love strangers. Some of these strangers happen to be part of the LGBTQ community. They sure don’t forget to love. In fact, if they didn’t love, they wouldn’t be targeted for who they love.

After the shootings happened, one of my friends wrote a post about how a gay bar is somewhere he wants to go to so he can meet other gay people, but he doesn’t want to die. I texted him because I felt sad and was worried. I will never understand the pain the LGBTQ community faces every day, but I want to hear their stories. I want to ask them about their pain, their struggles, their entire identity. I want to hear about the times they were slapped, either literally or figuratively. And I want to hear about the first time they felt comfort. We can’t love or accept or support anyone if we don’t even know anything.

If you know someone who is LGBTQ, perhaps even someone who isn’t a friend (yet), I encourage you to ask them how they are in light of the recent tragedy to their community. I am still trying to overcome the voices in my head saying they don’t want to talk about it, to someone such as myself. But they won’t mind as much as we might think. 🙂

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8 Comments to "What I Learned About the LGBTQ Community"

Kya wrote on 16th June 2016 at 3:56 AM

An absolutely horrible tragedy. 🙁 It is so awful when any person is harmed and even worse when it is a community that has constantly fought for equal rights. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!


Liz wrote on 16th June 2016 at 5:53 AM

I didn’t learn about the shooting until a day or two after it happened; we had had a shooting at Dallas Love Field (Dallas Love for short), an airport, so I was kind of paying more attention to that. Ours was more of a public domestic dispute between a couple, though, as far as I could tell.

The Orlando shooting, on the other hand, was hard for me to personally digest. I have many friends who are LGBTQ+, and…meh. We haven’t talked about it. Most of them don’t want to talk about it, and I respect that.


Michelle Reply:

There was a shooting there? Oh snap. I live in the area near it (DFW area).


cantaloupe wrote on 17th June 2016 at 4:02 AM

I think that some people do just want to be treated exactly the same, once they come out to you. One of my best friends here is gay, which isn’t actually something you can be out about here. (It’s technically illegal.) And I think that she expected to be treated differently by a lot of people when she started coming out, especially her family. But when they didn’t change they way they treated her, she was so pleasantly surprised. I think she’s still waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak, haha. But it hasn’t. And that’s the best way for them to show her that they love her, it really is, I think.


Rezina wrote on 17th June 2016 at 7:17 PM

The tragedy was absolutely horrible and I couldn’t even believe that anyone could be so hateful. This was a very deep post. I completely agree with everything that you’ve said. I have experienced the same thing and often, I try not to let myself fall into something like color blindness, expect instead of color, it would be for the LGBTQ community. It’s important to acknowledge and realize that the community are going through struggles and also important to listen to what they’re going through.


Tara wrote on 18th June 2016 at 3:00 AM

This recent Orlando shooting is very tragic and unfortunate. My heart goes out to the LGBT community. No groups should be persecuted on the basis of their skin colour, ethnic background, sexual orientation, and religious (or non-religious) background. What should matter are the individuals themselves. It’s really mind-boggling that we human beings are so negative towards the members of our own race. We’re not even a different species, but people judge and persecute them for so many superficial reasons. It’s amazing that we can’t get along.


Alice B wrote on 19th June 2016 at 12:18 PM

I am not against anyone who sticks to what they believe in. I respect people who choose their beliefs but for me, personally, the reason why I stick to being agnostic is because all these misconceptions towards certain issues that each religion has …I just can’t digest them. I am in no way blaming the religion itself. But I just can’t stand having to hear religious people (from any beliefs, tbh) badmouth and say hateful words towards people of the LGBT community. growing up, I’m surrounded by adults who insist that I have to have a belief right then and there and I tell them no, I will choose when the time’s right but for now, I’m not sticking to anything. The religious fanatics are just too much for me sometimes; they can treat gays like they are abnormal people with disease and that they are disgusting whatsoever. that makes me sick, especially when they start defending their sick judgments through means of a bible. It makes me think of stuff like…is this really what your belief teaches you? of course, I’m not saying it’s wrong to have a belief and that the religion is wrong whatsoever; it’s, again, the people who are wrong. whether it’s about the orlando shooting or not, every single day we will have people who judge the LGBT community as disgusting beings. harsh as it may be, we can’t really change their thoughts — those who judge the community and gays as disgusting, I mean. it’s a sad thing but there will always be people out there who behave like this. yes, it’s wrong but again, to each their own.

this, tbh, is such a massively broad topic that we can’t just put an end in one go. i feel like, it’s equally as massive as racism; it’s not something you can just kill with fire. not that simple. I do feel sad for the victims and their family though. on the contrary, I’m not sure what’s the motive behind the shooting; I’ve read articles where the shooter said that he didn’t do it because he hates gays, but rather because of something else that I can’t quite remember. then again, who knows…

RIP to the victims.


Ongaku wrote on 23rd June 2016 at 11:48 AM

It just really sickens me to the point to where I just don’t have enough or the right words to describe how bad it makes me feel to think that this shit happens and how there are so many people in the world that just hate and do awful things. ):


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