I Give My Heart to San Francisco #InternationalWomensDay
Yesterday was an important day for every woman on Earth. 👸 I find it so great that I had booked my flight for this date, when I had forgotten it is International Women’s Day until a few days ago.
It looks like I had been preparing to celebrate International Women’s Day, because yesterday on March 8th, 2017, I moved across the country to San Francisco to pursue my career as a woman in the tech industry! 😀
This is why I have been so busy since I got back from Asia, and why I’ve been slow at updating and reading your blogs. 😛 Moving out and temporarily back to my parent’s house, job hunting, apartment hunting, packing my whole life into two suitcases, catching up with friends after being away for a month while also saying my goodbyes has been exhausting! But I am so filled by the amount of love and support I’ve received.
I made the decision to move to San Francisco while I was traveling alone in Singapore in January.
Last October, I was already met with anxiety at the thought of graduating and working again. I realized that going back to work in New York’s tech industry was the very last thing I wanted to do. I love New York, but I didn’t choose to go to school there or start my career there. I thought it was my only option. Initially, I had no clue what I wanted. What couldn’t I get in New York? It’s the second biggest city in the world! I even considered getting some experience abroad, such as in Hong Kong (my favorite place ever) or Sydney (a major city in a Western country). But I didn’t want to go through a Visa process or be a foreigner. Then I came upon the realization that the one place in the United States that has so much more to offer than New York does for my work field is San Francisco, the tech capital.
I then began considering going to San Francisco after I graduated, but I was scared of leaving my family and friends, my world, my everything, so I didn’t think too much of it. But when I was alone in Singapore, I learned that I could totally take care of myself in a strange new place. I also had more motivation to be bolder at trying new things. If fear was holding me back from leaving New York, did that mean staying in New York would guarantee me everything?
It doesn’t. Not at all.
For so many years I’ve watched other people try amazing things while I was struggling with my depression. My only accomplishment was finishing my degree early and going straight to work without even a single day of unemployment, but it was a job I hated yet accepted because I didn’t think I could get anything else. After less than a year I switched to a new job that I loved but it still wasn’t the right environment. I expected a Master’s degree would give me the perfect job.
I found my security in New York and waited for things to happen for me.
Nothing ever did until I went to graduate school and walked out of my comfort zone. I made tons of amazing friends, I beat my depression, I made a game about racism and slavery to raise awareness of serious global issues. I’ve only moved forward in the last two years. Getting a new job in New York’s tech industry would actually be going backwards.
It happened really fast, but I can’t believe I am finally here in San Francisco!
I rented a room from a lovely Asian couple in their amazing house, and my roommates are not just them but five adorable hamsters!!! The rent is pretty expensive (though very low for San Francisco and what I’m used to in New York) but it’s completely furnished! The walls of my room is the same peaceful blue as my room in my parents’ house, so it’s very comforting. The morning sun is also very warm and nicely lights up the room, unlike my dark room back home.
The weather is absolutely amazing during the day, a sunny 60°F+ (17°C+) though it gets really chilly at night. It feels a lot warmer and more cheerful than New York though because the flora is evergreen and the palm trees make it seem tropical, though it won’t get much hotter even in summer. I plan on visiting in New York in summers from now on. 🙂
I live really close to the Pacific Ocean so yesterday I went down there immediately and was astounded by the gorgeous view! The fog was rolling in by then so I actually caught it on camera.
I have a few goals I set to start my new life here:
- Get healthier. The weather is perfect year-round for going outdoors, so I want to either work out or go hiking all the time OR BOTH! I need to eat healthier, and sleep healthier. Places close early here and it’s cold at night yet really warm in the morning, so that’s a great reason to go to bed early and wake up early.
- Don’t find my security in a job. I’ve had a few interviews but I am open to jobs either full time or contract or even internships at bigger companies. I didn’t wait for the “perfect job” to move here so I should not be settling for anything that will drain me.
- Find a church community. I’ll be church-hopping for the next few weeks. My friends back home have connected me with a lot of their friends here so I’ll be visiting people and meeting new friends!
In the long term, I actually hope to move to a new house and I have already found my dream neighborhood, Bernal Heights! My Lyft from the airport passed by here yesterday to drop off another passenger and I was immediately reminded of my favorite gem in Hong Kong, Shek O Village. The unique colorful little houses in Shek O had caught my eye and I can’t believe half of San Francisco is made up of them! They’re also built on slopes, which reminds me even more of Hong Kong!
I woke up at 6AM today from jetlag and got up at 8, had an interview, ate breakfast, and wrote this post all before noon! Now I’m gonna head out to check out my new city, my new home, my new heart San Francisco!